Why You Need To Feel Your Feelings and Send The Emails with Liz Fosslien

Erik talks to longtime friend and co-author of No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work, Liz Fosslien (@fosslien / fosslien.com). She talks about the importance of “feeling your feelings” and not running away from them, especially at work. Liz gives some practical tips on how to give good feedback, how to approach negotiating, and how to be a good boss.She talks about the difference between diversity, inclusion and belonging, why it’s so important to strive to make people feel like they belong and how to do so (tip: learn how to pronounce *everyone’s* name, not just the easy ones). Erik asks how her own experience led her to these insights and how she’s able to find humor in the workplace. She also explains why not being so passionate about your job is actually a good thing, why you should stop feeling bad about feeling bad, and how to acknowledge your anxiety and move on.Quotable Lines From This EpisodeThis traditional notion that you should be able to check your feelings at the door when you enter the office is ridiculous, and given that we are going to have emotions at work, it’s time we learned to deal with them.Envy’s actually a really useful emotion — it really reveals what we value. If you’re jealous of someone, don’t perform all kinds of mental gymnastics to make that go away, try and really figure out what that person has that’s making you jealous.As a manager, it’s almost as important to manage your emotions as it is to manage other people.___Thanks for listening — if you like what you hear, please review us on your favorite podcast platform. Check us out on the web at villageglobal.vc or get in touch with us on Twitter @villageglobal.Venture Stories is brought to you by Village Global, is hosted by co-founder and partner, Erik Torenberg and is produced by Brett Bolkowy.