41: 5 Ways to Love Your Kids When You Don't Like Them

Let’s get real… We would all die for our kids. We love them so much our hearts physically ache at the mere thought of something bad happening to them.  And we know we could not survive without them.  

But, sometimes we don’t like them.  

When Vinnie smacked my upside the head with a toy car recently, I didn’t really like him for a few minutes.  

The next day when he kicked me in the mouth, I didn’t adore him so much.

Sometimes at bedtime, when I’m heading upstairs for the umpteenth time to give another sip of water, or help him try to poop one more time, or find a misplaced toy, or adjust the cracked door so it’s not too open and not too closed, I want to gouge my eyes out.  

On today’s episode I talk through 5 Ways to Love Your Kids When You Don’t Like Them.  We’ve all been there.  And sorry to break it to you – but you’re gonna be there again – probably sometime today. 

Here’s how you can love your child when his/her behavior has you dreaming of solo beach vacation with unlimited drinks:

1. Speak their language

Know where they are developmentally

Talk about feelings & emotions

Invite cuddles and conversation

2. Learn their currency

Toys

Food

Activities – parks, games, shows, etc

3. Take space

Tag team with your partner

Have routine time off/help

Use back up care as needed

4. Take care of YOU

Sleep

Exercise

Nutrition 

5. Keep Learning

Read books 

Attend talks

Connect with parents who have same age kids (live parent groups or FB groups)

Take time to reflect on what’s working and what’s not

We’re all doing the best we can, but you can’t do it all without your tool box.  Ask for help and support.  Know you’ll screw up.  Stay open to learning and evolving. Be committed to doing your best. Keep the wine close by.

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.shamelessmom.com