364: Darcy Lockman: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership

Darcy Lockman is a journalist turned clinical psychologist and the author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership (Harper Collins). Her writing has appeared in the New York Times and the Washington Post, among others. Her first book, Brooklyn Zoo, chronicled the year she spent working on the psychiatric ward of a city hospital. She currently practices in New York City, where she lives with her husband and daughters.

I have invested a lot of time learning about building equitable relationships in the last year.  As someone who likes to take on all. the. things., I know what it’s like to be the doer and the know-er and the gatekeeper of everything in the family.  It’s an exhausting, unfair, and unnecessary burden that we can improve - drastically. I couldn’t be more excited to invite you into this conversation with Darcy and me.

Listen in to hear Darcy share:

• What “good” dads get away with
• Societal, multi-generational indoctrination of gender roles - even among progressive couples
• The truth about maternal gatekeeping and the potential damage around it
• The power of using your anger in adaptive ways to have a more equitable relationship
• The research-proven struggles and burdens of the mental load of motherhood, especially in the first 4 years
• Strategies to build a more equitable partnership with your partner

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Darcy
• Book: All The Rage
• Twitter: @darcy_lockman

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