351: Dreaming, Doing & Decisiveness

There is a huge difference between dreaming and doing.  Yet, sometimes we confuse the two. 

Dreaming lives in your head and your heart.

Dreaming doesn’t have a plan.

Dreaming is passive.

Dreaming doesn’t have a start date.

Dreaming doesn’t keep you accountable.

Dreaming is not an accomplishment.

Dreaming is picture perfect and linear, a series of perfect steps that take you to a perfect destination.

Dreaming is future-oriented.  It’s about later… when you have time when the kids are older when the circumstances are juuuuust so.

Dreaming is outcome focused.

Dreaming feels indulgent and delightful, like something you might not even be worthy of.

In contrast…

Doing is your dream in action.

Doing is a plan.

Doing has a start date, as well as an end date.

Doing keeps you accountable.

Doing is an accomplishment.

Doing is not linear, its a series of highs and lows and lefts and rights and a few wrong turns that take you to a beautifully imperfect place that you’re ridiculously proud of.

Doing is action oriented.

Doing is present-oriented, not future-oriented.

Doing is step focused - not outcome focused - where you’re always considering, “what is my next right step?”

Doing feels scary, exciting, nerve-wracking, determined, and disciplined.

Dreaming definitely serves a purpose.  It provides:

• Hope
• Vision
• Clarity
• Joy
• Escape

Doing serves a transformative experience:

• Sense of pride
• Sense of momentum
• Sense of accomplishment
• Increased self-worth
• New/evolved sense of identity

At the crux of dreaming vs doing is a lot of decision making.  I would argue that decisiveness is the biggest struggle of doing.  Making decisions toward your dreams (the doing) can be crippling.  But for the doing to take place, the decisions must be made.  You must become a DECISION MAKER AND AN ACTION TAKER.  It is the only path to your dreams.  Listen in to hear how to learn how to become a better decision maker and action taker - in order to be a DOER who realizes all her dreams. 

Links mentioned:

Shameless Mom Con WaitList

Thank you to our sponsors:

• Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love
• BarkBox: Get a FREE EXTRA MONTH of Barkbox with any 6 or 12-month subscription by visiting BarkBox