He’s Pulling Away, Do You Reach Out—Or Is That Chasing?

He’s pulling away. You feel it in your chest, in the lag between messages, in the subtle silence that suddenly feels heavy. And now you’re frozen—wondering if reaching out makes you brave… or makes you look desperate. In this episode, we unpack the confusing space between self-respect and self-abandonment, and why “matching his energy” might just be your nervous system’s way of protecting you from deeper vulnerability. If you’ve ever held back from expressing how you feel—not because you didn’t care, but because you were terrified it wouldn’t be met—this conversation is for you. We’ll talk about: The difference between chasing and courageous communication What “cool girl” behavior is actually costing you How fear of rejection gets disguised as empowerment And how to know when your silence is a boundary—and when it’s a performance This isn’t about getting him back. It’s about getting you back.