My Desire to Be a Good Mom Led Me to Forsake My Children

Growing up, I was taught that to be a good kid-- you needed to behave and follow instructions, or else society would label you a bad kid. So naturally, when I began my journey in motherhood, I stepped into it with that same kind of mindset. I fell into the hole of believing that society’s opinion was my benchmark for being a good mother-- because I had well-behaved kids controlled by star charts and shame. It wasn't until I made peace with my own childhood that I realized I needed to break the cycle with my own daughters and really build that connection to fix my relationship with them. Though these old habits lurk around the corners sometimes and rear their head, I am so much more conscious now of when I need to take a step back. So if you’re a recovering yeller just like me, then I’d highly recommend you listen in on how I managed to unlearn controlling my kids, to working in harmony and cooperation with them!   Episode Highlights: My misguided goals as a parent Society’s praise for control Why we need to prioritize how our kids see us, not society Kids’ behavior is not a byproduct of control, it's a reflection of your relationship   Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me one on one and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos, and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner.To sign up for my One-on-One Private Parenting Sessions, click here to start now and change your parenting reality! -- Enjoy today’s episode? Please share this episode with a friend and subscribe to the show to get notified on the latest episodes. Support this podcast through my partnership with Hand in Hand Parenting. Find useful parenting material and the Booklets I discuss in the show? Click Here. Are you a coach, or online course creator? Have an email list you communicate with often? Do you have a website? Kajabi can be your home for all of these and so much more Click here and explore all Kajabi has to offer while supporting the Peace and Parenting Podcast with no extra cost to you.    Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla LinkedIn @Michelle Kenney M.Ed Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Want to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cure Our Sponsors: * Birdwatching enthusiasts check out Feathersnap: https://www.feathersnapcam.com/ * Check out BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/PEACE * Check out ByHeart.com/podcast and use my code PEACE for a great deal: www.byheart.com/podcast * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.com * Check out Knorr to bring more peace to your meal prep: https://www.knorr.com * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com * Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy