POF09: Peaceful Discipline

I’m asked all the time what punishments parents should use and when should kids be punished.    Well…In short, I don’t believe in punishments.  I don't believe in them because I think it distracts from the important reasons WHY your child is acting the way they are.    When I talk about peaceful parenting, it’s parenting without punishment and it doesn't mean that sometimes there isn’t a need for what you would call natural consequences.   What I talk about in this episode is about how to peacefully connect with your child by putting the relationship first.  BUT, this doesn’t mean that it's a free-for-all for your child.  Your kids do not run the show!  Parent need to be the ones in charge, the ones that sets the boundaries the expectations. This issue becomes muddied and difficult for parents because when their child is behaving in a way they don't want does, something rude or destructive, talks back or just us something bad, parents usually go to punish because they don’t have any other tools.  In this podcast, I give you the tools to not punish, to seek to understand your child’s behaviour and if absolutely necessary, create a natural consequence.  About Robbin McManne   Robbin is a Certified Parent Coach, author and speaker.  She works with parents from all over the world to help them build more connection and find more joy and cooperation to their parenting. Robbin is a former ‘Angry Mom’ and for over 12 years, Robbin juggled a full-time corporate career while being a mom and wife, prior to becoming a Parenting Coach.  In her corporate career, Robbin has a background in marketing and public relations, training, and event planning. She understands firsthand how many moms struggle to balance work and family.   It’s because of her struggles as a parent that she found the world of peaceful parenting and has dedicated her life to teaching parents how to build a strong family, so their kids thrive.  Robbin’s work focuses on building and strengthening the parent child relationship so that children grow up with resilience, confidence and strong emotional intelligence.  She works with parents to help them understand their own emotions and frustrations in parenting, so they can help build their children’s sense of self without losing themselves in the process!   In October of 2018 Robbin released her first book, “The Yelling Cure – How stress less and get your kids to cooperate without threats & punishments.” Her book is being read by parents all over the world 1000,000 copies sold to date.   Robbin divides her time working with her clients, speaking at events and spending time with her two boys and husband.  You can usually find her at a hockey rink or sports field cheering on her boys.  Most importantly, Robbin has changed the way she parents and connects with her sons and is dedicated to helping parents find the same joy, connection and cooperation in their families.   www.yellingcurebook.com [email protected] www.parentingforconnection.com www.facebook.com/parenting4connection www.instagram.com/robbinmcmanne_parentcoach   From the Podcast: Look at your child’s behaviour as secondary.  Focus on what’s driving the behaviour first.    Follow these steps: go to your child and call out the behaviour. Say: “wow you must be really angry right now” “I know you're feeling really disappointed right now”  “I can see that my answer makes you very angry” “it looks like you have lots of energy!” Validate what...